This is a question that I often get asked, and one that might hold a different answer for each couple. Here are a few pointers when it comes to your plus-ones on the guest list.
if brides do not have enough to worry about...along comes the task of
actually compiling the guest list for the big event. Seems simple
enough, right? Wrong.
all of those people that you want to invite who are unmarried? You are
going to have to figure out if it is acceptable for them to bring dates
to the wedding. This is a tricky situation for a few reasons.
1. Nobody likes to go to weddings alone (OK maybe those guys in the Wedding Crashers movie, but not most people).
If you have a lot of single friends, giving them ALL the green light to
bring dates could substantially impact your wedding costs and pack your
special day with strangers.
So...what to do? The trick here
is to come up with rules and actually stick to them. Maybe you realize
that you only have ten single guests. Perhaps it is fine if they all
If you have 40 single guests, maybe decide that
fiancees are welcome, but casual boyfriends and girlfriends are not. Or
decide that if the couple lives together, they should both be invited.
what is best for you and comfortable for your budget, but don't make
exceptions to your rule. Doing this is offensive to the guests who
comply with your wishes!
OK...there should be just one
exception. If a member of the wedding party is single, he or she should
always be allowed to bring a date. Members of the wedding party usually
do a lot for the bride and groom in the months leading up to the
wedding, so it is only appropriate to allow them to bring a guest!