There are so many details, rules and wedding planning can become overwhelming. If things are kept in perspective and you have a relaxed attitude, everything will get done in a timely manner and you will have a very beautiful wedding. It certianly is the biggest party you will ever plan, so make it uniquely yours. Remember, if you can sidestep some of these no-nos that we planners often suggest to our clients to avoid, then your planning will be a happy time.
You cannot be a superbride; you are only one person and you must accept the fact that you cannot and should not try to do it all and expect to be sane on your wedding day! You obviously will make most of the major decisions needing to be made, but don't get caught up in the minute details that demand your attention every waking hour. Don't brush away offers of help. If people offer to help, accept their offers Of course hiring a wedding planner to take care of the legion of details is a very wise move.
Do not have a cash bar! You have invited people to your party, so do not ask them to pay for their refreshments. There are many ways to watch your bar expenditures; You do not have to have top shelf brands, you can serve a specialty cocktail and offer only beer and wine. You can choose to have an open bar just for an hour and then serve wine at dinner. Always have soft beverages and juices available.
Gift registries are wonderful to have, but do not include the information about them on your invitations. Giving a wedding gift is not mandatroy, although most guests will send or bring a gift. The best way to let people know about the registry is word of mouth through your parents or bridal party, and you can always mention it if you have a wedding website.
Remember to be a friend to your brdiesmaids and not their boss. Their official function is to witness the solemn event at which you take your marriage vosw. They stand up for you, so try and take the "maid" portion out of their title. Of course they are willing to help , but watch the demands you make on their time and pocketbooks. Let them know how much you appreciate their willingness to be part of your special day.
These are but a few of the Dont's to keep in mind while planning your big day. Call us at FAO if you have questions about other areas where you might not be sure of how to act or what to do. We would be happy to assist you.