I must share a conversation that I had with a bride-to -be just this morning. She called to see if I would be available to coordinate her wedding which is less than 1 month from now. I asked why she waited this long to want to hire someone, and she went on to tell me that her venue adamantly told her mother at the first meeting,"You do not need anyone helping you; we do it all."
This particular bride, although very busy, planned the wedding , found vendors with the use of social media, and friend's experiences, but now, when it is time for all the little details, she called the venue"coordinator" and asked her to assist in something. Guess what she was told. "Oh, we don't do that for you." This young lady is now angry and devastated that she has no assistance at a crucial point in the planning process.
Why some venues are intimadated by planners, is the biggest question . We are available to lend a hand, give assistance, and we take care of all the what-ifs and the unexpected. We are an asset to any venue. They take care of their venue. Yes, they will help the bride get down the aisle, but they will not be their personal advocctae the entire day until that last gift is in the car at the end of the evening. They will not coordinate all your vendors. They do not know every little detail about family dynamics or how to troubleshoot problems for you, like your own planner/coordinator will do without you even knowing about it.
Please, if nothing else when starting in the planning process for the biggest day in your life, talk to a planner. Most planners do offer complimentary consultatons so you can learn what they do compared to what a venue coordinator says they will be able to do for you.
Make your planning experience a good one and have peace of mind that you will be able to enjoy your wedding day because you have someone there to be your personal advocate.